The Law of Detachment acknowledges one of the greatest paradoxes of life – the the best way to get what you want is to relinquish your attachment to it.
Whenever we believe that our happiness is dependent upon some external person, position, place, or possession - we experience frustration, loss, insecurity, and fear. These feelings diminish our ability to think and behave creatively, reducing our capacity to enjoy our life as it is unfolding.
A few years ago, I came across this commercial . It is the perfect example of how being attached to something causes pain and limits joy...even in the lap of luxury. Take a look.
Although extreme, this commercial highlights how possessiveness can be a prison. Ultimately, what we try to possess, possesses us. (beliefs, routines, relationships, material items, our workplaces...a certain kind of coffee). Their whole vacation was miserable until the suitcase of coffee showed up.
Detachment does not mean we don’t care. It just frees us up to be immersed in the appreciation of the experience, the person, the object, the place and to let go of the clinging.
Using the breath as a teacher of this guideline. What if we could trust life like we trust our breath? What if we take in all the nourishment of the moment and then let it go fully, trusting that more will come? Like the breath, work, relationships, beliefs, routines all can bring nourishment until we get attached to these things. Like the breath, when held too long, the things that nourish us can become toxic.
Sometimes the things we hold onto are not nearly as important as the things we let go of.