Happy 2019! A new year on the calendar, and for many, signifying new possibilities in their life.
As you consider what you want to create this year, my wish for you is…
…that you fail and fail often.
Yep! I hope you fail because most people don’t achieve their dreams because they don’t want to fail.
I was one of those people. I played it safe and small for most of my life because I was a afraid to fail. I kept my goals more reasonable and realistic (i.e. more comfortable). Although, I have enjoyed some progress, I have not nearly reached my potential.
With the help of my yoga practice, my coach, and learning about how the brain works, I am becoming more comfortable with creating BIG goals for myself and feeling comfortable with failing.
Here’s how you can too:
Manage Your Mind
Know that your brain is designed to keep you safe. It will come up with a million reasons why your goal is a bad idea and it won’t happen. You can counteract this with deliberate thinking and positive self-talk. For example, when I started teaching Yoga, I was certain that no one would come to my classes. Thoughts like “I was too old”, “I was not strong enough”, “I have so much more to learn”, “I should go back to my corporate job”…and so on. I had to continuously challenge my negative thoughts and coach myself to feel the fear and do it anyway and I am so glad I did. It would have cost me sharing something that I love and know is a powerful vehicle for change. I would have missed out on inspiring so many people to explore greater physical and mental health. I would have missed out on being a part of an amazing yoga studio (Yoga Bliss) and community (Yoga Bliss and beyond).
When you fall short of your expectations, don’t take it personally. Failing is an opportunity to learn something…it is just information. You can attach as much meaning to an end result as you want. Just know that attachment cause suffering. When I first started teaching, I felt really, really bad when I had a small class. I would get discouraged and make it mean that I wasn’t a “good” teacher. Overtime, I recognized that there is way more at play than just me. I learned to show up fully and in service regardless who else shows up. This past Saturday, I taught two classes. I had only 2 people in one class and 56 in the other. I felt successful in both classes.
Plan To Fail
Decide that when you fail that you will not beat yourself up and that you will not quit. By doing this you are more likely to take the risk that success requires. I used to believe that if I didn’t try, I wouldn’t fail. I now know that is a lie. I was just failing ahead of time by not even trying.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” - J.K. Rowling
I’m going to challenge myself even more in 2019 and I hope you do too!
If you are looking to create a bigger, more fulfilling life but you think you could use some support. I am now accepting new coaching clients. I would be honored to help you fulfill your dreams. Consider making the investment in yourself !