The end of summer break is just around the corner and with that comes the anticipation of homework, packing lunches, volunteering, and all of the extra demands that are required of parents when the kids return to school.
Whether you work in or out of the house, there is some freedom to summer break. I have worked full-time with school-aged children and have worked from home, so I know it is an adjustment either way for most families. I am not complaining, I am happy to do my part to support my child’s education, but there is a big part of me that is seriously going to miss the sweet surrender of summer.
I recently reflected on how I deal with change and how to best transition with grace into a new situation. The answer I found was simple: come back to your power. I find power by:
- Accept: Meet the change head on by accepting what is. The serenity prayer sums this up perfectly. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
- Trust: When we are in the midst of any difficulty, we often don’t have much clarity. Trust that there is a bigger plan and that we are in growth mode. Once we are on the other side of it, we often see why it happened.
- Balance: When you feel grounded, you can manage the stress of change better. Find the foundation points of your life and root into them. This could look like your best friend, a supportive family member, a hobby that allows time to slip away, eating nourishing meals, a good night’s sleep—anything that gives you a platform to feel supported.
I love this excerpt from a book titled “Managing Transitions” by William Bridges: “It isn't the changes that do you in, it's the transitions. Change is situational: the new boss, the new policy, the new roles. Transition is the psychological process people go through to come to terms with the new situation. Change is external, transition is internal."
During each period of transition, you have the power to choose how you respond in your new world. You can get from point A to point B the hard way, or lighten your grip to the past and accept.
No one is immune to change and even small, neutral changes (like the kids going back to school) can tangle us up. The best course of action is to meet it head on, embrace it, and recognize that progress is happening.