“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me."
Not true! Words have power – they can hurt and they can heal.
Beyond the insults hurled on the playground or messages passed down to us from our family, our inner critic is what does the most damage.
You know the voice in your head that judges you, doubts you, and belittles you. It says things that you would never even dream of saying to anyone else.
I’m not good enough.
I’m too fat/tall/short/young/old.
I’m not strong enough.
I never have enough time/money/appreciation/love.
I don’t deserve …
I can’t …
How can these thoughts motivate us to be our best selves? They can't and they don't! They don't strengthen or empower us. Not only do toxic thoughts make us feel worse in the moment, research continues to prove that negative thoughts cause lasting harm to our health and life.
Research continues to prove that every time you think negative thoughts about your health, you’re poisoning your body with stress hormones that deactivate your body’s natural self-repair mechanisms.
Have you heard of the experiment conducted my Dr. Masaur Emoto back in the 1990’s?
Using high-speed photography, Dr. Emoto discovered that crystals formed in frozen water reveal changes when specific, concentrated thoughts are directed toward them. He found that water exposed to loving words shows brilliant, complex, and colorful snowflake patterns. In contrast, water exposed to negative thoughts, forms incomplete, asymmetrical patterns with dull colors. This research created a new awareness of how words can impact matter and our personal health. Pretty cool, huh?
You can read more about the research he conducted in his bestselling book “The Hidden Messages in Water”.
Now that we are crystal clear on how our thoughts affect us, how do we get out of the negative spin cycle?
- Awareness - - Be diligent about minding your thoughts. This is important. Awareness is the first step to change.
- Challenge the Thought - - When a negative thought pops into your head, ask yourself a few questions. Is this absolutely true? Where did this thought come from? Does it still serve me?
- Reframe the Thought-- We give away too much of our power. Remember YOU are the gatekeeper of your mind, and it’s your responsibility to protect what you think. You get to choose.
It's not easy. Trust me it has taken me years and years of practice and work with a counselor and coach.
It’s a muscle that you will strengthen overtime. It takes conscious and consistent work in order to reap the benefits. Like brushing your teeth or showering, it's important to clean up your mind every day.
Speaking of words...
Each week, Kylie and I draw a word from the beautiful word box pictured above. It's a simple and powerful way to inject some positive energy into our week. It was created by one of my favorite yoga teachers, Tracy Rhinehart. Get yours here.